As Brian and
I are coming up on 13 years of marriage (Sept. 18th), I was thinking
about kids and marriages today. I find
it terribly sad to hear of marriages ending with divorce. It is not what God intends at all. We tell our boys this, as it has come up in discussion. Not about us.
However, we have had to explain what it is and means because they have
asked about family and friends.
I are coming up on 13 years of marriage (Sept. 18th), I was thinking
about kids and marriages today. I find
it terribly sad to hear of marriages ending with divorce. It is not what God intends at all. We tell our boys this, as it has come up in discussion. Not about us.
However, we have had to explain what it is and means because they have
asked about family and friends.
While Brian and I were engaged and still
dating we vowed to keep the spark alive in our marriage. We never wanted to become one of “those” marriages
that got old, boring and had no fun. I
didn’t want that “spark” to die! I
remember telling Brian that I always wanted to be in that “honeymoon stage” forever. We talked a lot when we dated. I’m the type of person to ask a lot of
questions and we got into some great discussions. I’m so glad we talked a lot and had good communication then and now. I can
honestly say that the “spark” is still there and we are more in love every day. I love that we still can talk about anything
and everything. He’s a good listener and
we spend time communicating. Oh yes we
do argue, we aren’t perfect by any means.
dating we vowed to keep the spark alive in our marriage. We never wanted to become one of “those” marriages
that got old, boring and had no fun. I
didn’t want that “spark” to die! I
remember telling Brian that I always wanted to be in that “honeymoon stage” forever. We talked a lot when we dated. I’m the type of person to ask a lot of
questions and we got into some great discussions. I’m so glad we talked a lot and had good communication then and now. I can
honestly say that the “spark” is still there and we are more in love every day. I love that we still can talk about anything
and everything. He’s a good listener and
we spend time communicating. Oh yes we
do argue, we aren’t perfect by any means.
Keeping a marriage cultivated isn’t easy at
all. It takes work to keep a marriage
healthy, happy and on the right track. One of the most important things we can do as
a couple is seek God in prayer. In all
13 years of marriage I think I can count on one hand the nights we have missed
in praying together. I still remember Pop telling us at our wedding reception about
the importance of prayer and he gave us a significant rock to remind us to
prayer every night. This was a rock
taken from a prayer alter in South Carolina from his great Grandpa
Holladay. Pop took this rock and placed
in on a piece of the stump where he proposed to Mom. It’s so important to keep God at the
forefront of both of our minds. What
better way than to come together at the end of the day and seek God in prayer. We can’t go through this life without
him. I can’t even imagine going through
some of our trials in our marriage without Him.
He’s our strength! We can’t teach and train our children in His ways if
we aren’t living out what He wants. We
can’t live out what he wants unless we are in the Word and filling up on it. We
have our ups and downs like anyone, but it’s so great to know that we can
always come back together and keep it real and strong.
all. It takes work to keep a marriage
healthy, happy and on the right track. One of the most important things we can do as
a couple is seek God in prayer. In all
13 years of marriage I think I can count on one hand the nights we have missed
in praying together. I still remember Pop telling us at our wedding reception about
the importance of prayer and he gave us a significant rock to remind us to
prayer every night. This was a rock
taken from a prayer alter in South Carolina from his great Grandpa
Holladay. Pop took this rock and placed
in on a piece of the stump where he proposed to Mom. It’s so important to keep God at the
forefront of both of our minds. What
better way than to come together at the end of the day and seek God in prayer. We can’t go through this life without
him. I can’t even imagine going through
some of our trials in our marriage without Him.
He’s our strength! We can’t teach and train our children in His ways if
we aren’t living out what He wants. We
can’t live out what he wants unless we are in the Word and filling up on it. We
have our ups and downs like anyone, but it’s so great to know that we can
always come back together and keep it real and strong.
Kids need to
see this too. They need to see our
apologies, our silliness, hugs/kisses, coming before the Lord, and where we go
to learn and grow: The Bible. I hope and pray that our boys see us real. I hope they know with all their heart that we
love each other and that God is keeping us strong and in Him. I hope this gives them a sense of
security.
see this too. They need to see our
apologies, our silliness, hugs/kisses, coming before the Lord, and where we go
to learn and grow: The Bible. I hope and pray that our boys see us real. I hope they know with all their heart that we
love each other and that God is keeping us strong and in Him. I hope this gives them a sense of
security.
